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The art of charm in dating

The art of charm in dating

The Art of Charm

It’s really appealing to someone  if you if you can let that person know that you feel good about them, without requesting something in return or embarrassing them.  It’s the art of charm.  The following checklist should help you accomplish your goals:

- Always look into someone’s eyes when speaking to them. – Take time to compliment.  Consider what it would it take to make you feel complimented, and do the same to others. – Be sincere. It is strongest when you believe what you’re saying. – Be selfless. there is no need to ask for anything in return. – Remember that charm is sharing warmth; it isn’t sexual. – Can you say to another that “You are terrific. Thank you for letting me bask in your glow.”

You should practice the art of charm so it becomes part of your personality and not forced or rehearsed.  Consider a number of people you might practice on including possibly your mother, sister, dad, friends, or even your pet.  Take note how charming people may be in return.

Setting the stage

A woman may not know you are interested in her so you must make her aware of it.  If she is not aware, then nothing will likely ever happen.  The risk is yours to take and where to.  First, find the woman that you are interested in meeting, wherever you may be.  The more time you have to concentrate on her, the better success you may have.  If you do not focus on her and you look around too much, she may get the message you are looking for someone else to meet or be with.  Once you have found her, begin by looking for body language signs, such as eye contact, a smile, hair touching, etc.  If the signs are there from her, then you want to make the first move.  Don’t just continue eyeballing the woman or she may move on or consider you a deviant.

Okay, you started a conversation.  Now you should try to keep the conversation going and keep the focus on her with questions showing your interest in her without becoming too prying.  Remember you have just met her so keep your conversation light, focused to her, and avoid sex-related questions.  Talk about her likes, movies, or even the current awkward situation. Let her ask you questions about yourself if she wants but let her open that door.  If she does, remember to be brief and move the focus back to her. If the conversation deepens, why not tell her you would be interested in keeping in contact with her, and ask for a phone number!

The Next Step

The first phone call should be at a few days after your first meeting. Tell her how much fun you had with her  and how impressed you were with her personality. Remember the art of charm in dating.  Keep the first call relatively short -  not more than 15 minutes.  Wouldn’t you rather be meting with her over the next date and talking to her face to face for a few hours rather than just over the phone for two hours. Remember to end the first phone call first. If she ends the conversation, the ball is in her court. The conversation should end with you inviting her out for a coffee, lunch, or dinner.

Remember the art of charm in dating and to smile and enjoy!

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The #1 Secret to Attracting Women

The #1 Secret to Attracting Women

The art of attracting women consists of 10% projection of success, 10% appearance, 10% intelligence, and 70% charm. In a study conducted by the University of Waterloo, 85% of the correspondents expressed that charm was the principle reason for their attraction to the opposite individual. Some people are born with the gift of being naturally charming. But most people lack the skill

Do Ladies Find YOU Attractive?

When asked, most women say they want a nice sensitive guy that will buy them flowers and basically act like one of their girlfriends. They like the idea of getting flowers and having a sensitive guy to talk to about their problems.

Note: A lot of men end up becoming that guy, the guy that girls talk to about their problems. But the relationship usually doesn’t get any farther than being just friends.

All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy or that they can never seem to find a nice guy to date. The problem is, this isn’t exactly correct. These women aren’t lying when they say they want these things…when they think logical they do, because it makes sense. But remember, women don’t choose logically what they are attracted to.

So, when they think about it consciously. Women want a guy that will buy them flowers and talk to them when they feel down. But in reality, their instinct is to like a guy who will take control and act like a man should. So what qualities do women want in men?

What they’ve always wanted and always will want. Women want real men, men that are in control and don’t ask for permission to do anything. They don’t want to be in charge, they want someone to be in charge of them. I know this sounds harsh, but it’s true.

Here are some examples, have ever noticed that…

When you give a girl a compliment or tell her how beautiful she is she shies away from you? This probably happens every time you try and start a conversation. But when you…

Notice a flaw about her, she will get more involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.

Also, have you noticed…

When you spoil a girl by buying her gifts, taking her to an expensive dinner, she usually thanks you the evening and goes out with another guy? But, If you simply go for a quick drink and act like you are equals she feels attracted to you, because you’re not catering to her every need.

Have you noticed when….

You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and funny. But, when you don’t call her and you act like you’re busy and could live with her or without her, she won’t stop calling you. The truth is women don’t want to be catered to, spoiled or treated like princesses. This is what women want from a man…

First of all, women want you to be confident in your self. So, if you approach a girl and seem shy and awkward, that is a turn off. Women want you to lead the way, not the other way around. They don’t want to talk about what you are going to do, they just want you to lead the way and do it.

They want you to keep it cool and NOT get emotional. So if you are the kind of guy that has a hard time keeping his emotions to himself, you are going to have to work on it.

They want you to be fun and entertaining, not boring and dull. Just because you are into collecting stamps or collecting model planes, it does not mean you have to bore the poor girl to death about your hobby. Women want you to make them laugh. So again, you have to be entertaining and fun.

They don’t want to know everything about you all at once, they want to wonder. So, no matter how tempting it may be you don’t have to tell them you whole life story. Women want to keep guessing. They want you to have more to talk about then “the game last night”, they want you to be interesting.

They want you to be headed somewhere, they want you to have a life goal or something you are trying to achieve. In other words, they want you to know what you want from life.

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